Love in the Millennial Era

The older I get and try to navigate my way through life with my family, friends and lover in tow I am beginning to see a pattern amongst the millennials in my inner circle and the way we love in the 21st century. A lot of us grew up with either 2 parents who are still together or  eventually divorced, leaving a lasting impression on the way we view and approach relationships. 

I recently read an article that talked about how children of divorce view love and relationships in the 21st Century. We tend to love hard and remain guarded because of the realistic fear of our spouse one day leaving us just as we saw within our households as kids.

I myself grew up with parents who were High school sweethearts that grew a part as time went on. For me, it left the impression that no matter how long you are with someone or the history you share, sometimes things just don't work out.  

For many millennials this fear is all to real. The fact that we can actually consider someone's feelings besides our own and do that for the rest of our lives praying that one day they won't wake up having changed their minds one day. Talk about pressure! It doesn't help that we live in a society with a I vs. We mentality. The consumption of self-gratification is one that any of us struggle with. 

Call me naive, but I still believe in the idea of marriage and loving and accepting someone truly through it all. The idea that when things get hard and they suck that we won't give up on each other. No matter what. 

At the end of the day we may be a generation of self-loving, instantly gratified, materialistic, stuck in debt twenty-something's, however we want and desire many of the things that we saw our parents take for granted. Why you may ask? Because at the end of the day it's no better feeling in this world then sharing an intimacy so sacred with someone that truly allows you to live. 

❤️

Allyson